On March 31st 2024 at Boundary Trails Health Center, Elma Marie Friesen (nee Fehr) aged 85 years was released from this life and called to her eternal home where she so longed to be with her Lord and Savior and to be reunited with her husband Isaac L Friesen and her son Evan James.
Elma was born to John and Katherina Fehr on September 29th 1938. The youngest of 7 children whom are all in heaven with her!
Mom first noticed Dad while at a baseball game. Nuenburg school against the Schanzenfeld school. Dad was a left handed pitcher which I guess she found attractive. We’re not sure when they started dating but when she brought Dad home to meet her parents, her dad later asked her, “vot vast du mat zouna zeura gurk?”. What do you want with such a sour cucumber? Well she ended up marrying that zoura gurc and they were married for 59 years! Life wasn’t always easy for them. The tragic loss of their little boy was devastating but by the grace of God and their strong faith in him they were able to work through their loss.
Mom worked hard, she cleaned hard. I’m Pretty sure dad’s farm equipment was the cleanest in the village. She often bragged about the certificate she got from the Manitoba Dairy farmer association for having the cleanest milk room. Our mom loved hard and also worried hard. She loved her children and grandchildren so very much and told us often as I’m sure she’s told many of you!Sometimes we questioned how sincere her “I love you” was as even the telemarketers would get the occasional “I love you!”
When us kids were grown up she went back to school to get her health care diploma and spent 11 years employed at Eden health center where she made many long lasting friends.
Mom was very involved in the Bergthaler church as a Sunday school teacher, pioneer girls pal and a deacon along side dad.
Mom was also a faithful volunteer at the MCC. I’m sure her and her friends worked hard but I also know they had a lot of fun!
Mom loved to have fun and was a pretty crazy lady! She loved acting in many low German dramas and having fun with her friends. She loved the yearly camping weekend at lilac with the schanzenfeld group. Her craziness was quite evident when she slid down the water slides head first when she clearly knew the rule was feet first and almost got kicked out of the pool! Not sure whose idea that was, hers or Leona’s!
We had to add this story as her wishes were that her eulogy had some craziness to it! We could go on but her other wish was to keep it short.
When dad passed away in 2019, Mom was never quite the same. She missed him so much as he was her biggest support.
On Saturday January 27th she was admitted to boundary trails with severe abdominal pain and was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, at which time she looked at me and said “see I told you I was sick!” She was at peace with the diagnosis.
We as a family would like to thank Dr.Jordan Kroeker for taking care of our mom. I think some of our monthly visits were just so she could chat. Thank you to the palliative care team who took care of mom. To the nurses, doctors,healthcare aides, palliative care nurse Blake Derksen… thank you just doesn’t seem enough. You took care of our mom with the utmost respect and compassion. Thank you to Pastor Victor Engbrecht and Pastor Dean Huber for walking along side us and being a support to our parents. To Wiebe’s funeral Home for your compassion. To all those who supported us through this difficult time, we say thank you! There’s so many people who have been an important part of our mom’s life. There’s just too many to name but I do want to mention two ladies who lived on her floor at Buhler. Mrs. Mary Wiebe and Mrs.Helen Guenther. You were a gift from God. Your love and support for our mom helped her and myself so much. She loved you dearly. Thank you for allowing me into your knitting circle.
Mom leaves to mourn her passing, her oldest son Howard (wife Eleanor) Josh, Mark and Bettina. Son Warren (wife Robyn) Chloe and Fisher, Abbey and Adam. Daughter Heather (husband Bob) Katelyn and Edwin, Beth and Jason.
Brother’s in law John L Friesen and wife Anne , Abe L Friesen and wife Helen. Irvin Friesen and wife Sandra, sister in law Shirley Friesen, sister in law Rita Friesen and sister in law Mary Friesen. Many nieces and nephews whom she had special connections with and so appreciated your phone calls and visits.
She is predeceased by all of her siblings and in laws on the Fehr side of the family
Mom’s other request was that her tomb stone say “End of construction, thank you for your patience.” The jury is still out on that one…
We love you mom and look forward to being reunited with you again.